I’d Like to Publish You

Guest posting is a great way to get your writing in front of a new audience, and during the month of November, I would love to give you that opportunity here at Scribbles From Emily.

For some of us, November is a busy month. Busy getting ready for family to visit, or to visit family, fixing food, eating food, giving thanks, and shopping afterwards. We’re also trying to get ready for Christmas, which is coming up impossibly soon, so that means more shopping, decorating, and planning.

Sometimes the thankfulness factor of Thanksgiving gets lost in the bustle of the holidays. While we should be remembering our blessings year round, it’s a good idea to have a month set aside for that purpose, especially during the time of year that our culture is bombarding us with all the things we “need.” 

So to that end, during the month of November I’d like to feature your post that answers this question:

What in your life are you thankful for now, that at the time you didn’t see as a blessing? 

Spend some time thinking about that, and when something comes to mind, check out Scribble’s guest posting guidelines.

In other news, I’m planning to put together a holiday gift guide again this year, but in a little different format. My gift guide focuses on buying gifts from companies that donate to charities and compassionate organizations, and this year instead of just posting the links to the companies, I’d like to put together a downloadable PDF that features actual products, so you can shop by person, such as “babies,” “the people who have everything,” “teens,” etc.

I could really use your help! Do you shop at any companies that give to good causes? Leave a comment and tell me about them! To leave a comment, click on “Links to this Post” below, or the post title.

I so appreciate your help, and I’m looking forward to reading your guest posts!

Back in the Day

Just for kicks, today I’m answering the writing prompt from Mama Kat’s Pretty Much World Famous Writer’s WorkshopDescribe something you did with your spouse when you dated, but that you’re now “over.”


When we were first married, Brian and I couldn’t sleep unless A. We were together, B. It was subzero, and C. We were cuddling. This is how we used to fall asleep:

Sleeping Position 1

In sleeping position 1, we’re both sleeping on our stomachs and yet overlapping each other. One, because I needed him for warmth, since I wasn’t accustomed to the subzero temps. Two, I wanted to wake up and see his handsome face first thing in the morning.

Awwww.

Unfortunately, he wasn’t too fond of smelling my morning breath first thing in the morning, so we modified our cuddling position to this:

Sleeping Position 2
But no matter how we fell asleep, we somehow always woke up like this: 
Sleeping Position 3
Our backs are touching, but we’re facing away from each other. It looks as if we had a sleep talking fight. I bet that was interesting.
After a year of marriage, Brian insists we cuddle for about five minutes, so that I can scratch his back. That’s our new requirement for sleeping (D. Back scratching). He usually falls to sleep immediately afterwards, and then I can roll over to this, taking all the blankets with me: 
Sleeping Position 4, one year later

Now, he’s hinting at getting a bigger bed. Because we need even more space in our relationship? Because of something I said while sleep talking? Has my morning breath gotten worse? I have no idea.

We really do still love each other. The above diagram is no reflection on the state of our marriage. Promise.

Inspired

I’m a little at loss for words. I am in awe of the way God uses people who are willing, who say yes to His call, who step out, and leave everything to pick up His cross and follow. 

Today, I’m not in Uganda, or anywhere special. But today, I can write a letter to my sponsor child in Honduras, and let her know that she is loved and prayed for. Today, I can start planning my Christmas shopping by finding organizations that take care of orphans and widows.

It seems so small, not even a sacrifice. But I know that I can’t see the far reaching results of the small things I do. If God chooses, He’ll make them into big things.

Affordable Fall Style and Trends

Where I live, the weather finally started cooling off last week. Walmart is full of fall decor, and Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice latte is calling my name. It’s a little too warm to wear long sleeves and scarves here in the valley, but I went up to the mountains for a ladies’ retreat a couple weeks ago, so I got to dig out my warm weather clothes. I decided it was a good time to do my seasonal inventory, complete with pictures. 
I wrote about this closet inventory technique as part of the Fashion 101 series, basically, I’m shopping my closet, thinking outside the box and putting together some new combinations with what I already have. 
Since it’s been a while since I’ve written about what to wear, I thought I’d share some tips for dressing for fall. 
1. Camel is in. 
It used to be called khaki, tan, or light brown, but now it’s definitely called “camel.” And Loft says it’s the IN color this season. 
Loft

Well, I happened to find a pair of Khakis in the bottom of my drawer that I hadn’t worn for over a year, probably. Amazingly, they still fit. Now they’re at the height of fashion, so dig out yours too, along with your tan blazers, and keep those nude shoes.

My “camel” pants

2. Flares are in, but so are Skinnies. 
I don’t know about jeggings, but keep your skinny jeans, they haven’t been replaced by flares totally yet. Speaking of flares, 70’s inspired bells are popular, but I recommend going for something a little more conservative and classic, like a bootcut jean. Dark rinses tend to make you look slimmer, and are more versatile.

My go-to bottoms: Khakis, skinnies, and bootcut jeans

3. Go from Summer to Fall with Accessories
I love wearing this thin cotton plaid tunic in the summer, but the color is great for fall, so now I can wear it with skinny jeans and a scarf to keep warm.

Here’s another outfit I put together: a long sleeve purple tee, a gold lace cardigan, and my bootcut jeans. It’s a nice outfit as is, but add a scarf….

…And it takes it to a new level.

This scarf has a paisley pattern on the ends, fringe, and several gorgeous fall colors in it, including the same purple as the long sleeve tee. I can’t tell you where you can get this scarf, because my dad bought it for me in Afghanistan when he was stationed there. 
This teal scarf dresses up and warms up this casual grey tee and jeans. And this scarf I got at Walmart for $5. 

Besides scarves, jewelry adds a lot to an outfit. These earrings from Francesca’s Collections add a touch of whimsy to an ordinary cardigan and khakis.

Here’s a versatile necklace with lovely fall colors. I’ve been seeing a lot of chunky chain necklaces around, and also chain belts and bracelets.

Besides scarves and jewelry, accessorize with a hat, a cute purse, or a unique belt. 
4. Stock up on basics. 

I realized as I sorted through my clothes that I have a tanks and tops in the same shades of purple, teal, and cream. Stock up on basics, like tanks and long sleeve tees, in colors that flatter your skin tone and fit you well. Then, you can mix and match, and go from casual to dressy with a few accessories.

5. Go Monotone and neutral.
Pick pieces in the same hue, or similar hues, with a solid neutral base. If camel isn’t flattering on you, try
gray.

This picture again, from Loft. 
Here’s my take on the mono-color look, with my “camel” pants, a cream tank, gold sweater and white scarf. 

And here with a little more color, adding the olive green tank.

Also from Loft. 

And here’s my take on the second picture, with a light pink sweater and camel pants.
Sweater: Old Navy, $15
Khakis, Aeropastale

 6. Go bold or classic with red. 

Second to camel, red is also the “in” color this fall and winter. This is a picture of the Real Simple November magazine and the October Better Homes and Gardens. BHG had an entire article about the color red.

I bought this read sweater dress last year, and I’m excited for cooler weather so I can wear it again.

In my opinion, red nail polish is classic. This is color a little more trendy take on red nails. Coral was popular last spring and summer, and this polish makes a great transition from coral to red.  It’s called Fire Coral, and depending on what you wear with it, it can look more red or more coral. Plus, it only costs $2. 

I bought the nail polish at the same time I bought the lip gloss, and didn’t even realize how well they matched until later.

If you’re worried about red being too bright on you, experiment with different shades. There are so, so many shades of red available, I’m sure there’s one to flatter your skin tone. 
If Fire Coral is too bright or orangey for you, try this set of three polishes. If you buy, all three, you actually save 50%.
If you prefer lipstick to gloss, e.l.f. Mineral Mineral Lipstick is 100% mineral based with no parabens, no preservatives and no chemical dyes. And, it’s only $5 a tube. 
Cheerful Cherry $5

7. Make a list. 
When you take inventory, make a list of what you don’t have, but would like to get. Keep this list in your purse, so when you’re out on Black Friday, you’ll be better prepared to resist those deals on things you don’t need.

On my list, a mustard colored top. I’m in love with this color, and I don’t have any of it in my closet.

Study Break from Shabby Apple

I’m also saving up for some boots, like these from Old Navy.

What trends do you plan to partake in this fall? What are your favorite fall colors to wear?

Have you ever shopped your closet? If not, check out this post and read the “Homework” section for instructions. 


BTW: If you too are looking for a new dress, enjoy a Special Treat for the Month of October from Shabby Apple. Save $10 Off all Black and Orange Dresses

WOFC: Overcoming Fear and Having Children

Number 4 on my list of takeaways from day one of the Women of Faith Conference was “I will pray about when God wants us to have children.” That’s a big deal.

Two days before the Women of Faith Conference, Brian and I had discussed when we’d like to start having children… again. Those conversations never end well. I said I might like to go to graduate school. Brian said you have to pay for it yourself then. And what about kids? Before we got married, you said you’d have kids after you finished college. Can’t you go back to school and get a masters after the kids are grown up?

“Think about it babe,” I said. “If we have four children, three boys and a girl, and we have them two years apart, and they live with us until they’re 18, that’s 24 years until they’re all gone and I could go back to school. It make more sense to put in two years now, and then we have the rest of our lives to have kids.”

“But, if we wait that long, I’ll be so old, like 26. I’ll be like Abraham!” Brian exclaimed.

I laughed. “I don’t think 26 is quite as old as Abraham babe…”

“Well, I thought that once you finished school, we’d start a family.” Brian said. “And now it sounds like you want to be a career woman instead of a mom. I think you’re putting your career before your family.”

“Two years, babe! Two more years is all it takes to get a graduate degree!” I exclaimed.

Brian sighed. “I can’t talk to you about this anymore.” So that was that.

I still thought I was right, but the conversation bugged me. I felt guilty. Was I being selfish? Was I putting myself before family? Did I secretly want to be a career woman and not a family woman?

I’d never been the type that dreamed of her future children running around the house, that planned their names 20 years in advance, that oood and ahhhd over other people’s babies. I don’t even really like holding babies. And the whole idea of giving birth…doesn’t agree with me. The only time I’ve ever been car sick was when I was riding back from the Ladies’ Retreat, and when I woke up from a nap, all the ladies in the car with me where sharing their birth stories. Yep, I threw up. And I almost fainted.

But when I was at the retreat, and listening to Patsy talk about overcoming fear, I realized something. While I kept telling myself I wasn’t ready to have children, honestly, I hadn’t really prayed about it. Ever.

I was afraid that God would say yes, you are ready. So I hadn’t even asked. 

Patsy said that while she was recovering from agoraphobia, she had to ask herself, “Am I saying no to this activity, or going to this place, because I’m afraid, or because it’s not wise? If it was because I was afraid, I knew I had to make myself do it. The only way to overcome fear is to face it.”

Was I saying no to having children because I was afraid, or because it isn’t wise?

I have a lot of fears: I am afraid of being a bad mom. I’m afraid of being pregnant and giving birth. I’m afraid of having a human being dependent on me for it’s very life. But am I hesitant just because of fear, or because it’s not wise for where we are financially and for where I am in my life?

I realized that the only way I’ll know is to pray about it. So I’ve started praying that if God wants us to have children sooner than later, He’ll let us know. If He wants us to wait a few years, He’ll show us that too.

Introducing: Newlywed’s Bliss

Well my friends, today is the day!

After months of planning, writing, tweaking, and emailing back and forth…

I’m happy to introduce you to my two blog contributors, Caitlin and Kelsey. You can read all about them on our about us page, but for starters, Caitlin and her husband Andy got married a month before Brian and I did. Interestingly enough, Caitlin is from Arizona and moved to the Midwest after getting married, and I’m from the Midwest and moved to Arizona after getting married! Caitlin is passionate about strengthening marriage and applying Biblical truth. She has two blogs already, The Life Not My Own, where she writes about marriage, life, and following Jesus, and Rock This House, where she chronicles their home remodel. Caitlin’s writing is always and encouragement and a challenge to me, and I hope it is to you as well. 
Kelsey and Lee live in Grenada, where Lee attends medical school. Talk about adjusting to newlywed life…Kelsey had to adjust to being a wife and living in a new country! Kelsey has learned so much from the experience, and she has a lot to share. She went to school for interior design, and brings that expertise to the blog as well. Kelsey also has two blogs, Coghills in Grenada, where she writes about their adventures, and Kelsey Inspired, where she shares decor and craft projects. Kelsey is inspiring, not just with her craft projects, but with her love for Jesus and her desire to serve children living in orphanages in Grenada. 
Now that I’ve introduced you to the writers…
Brian and I first met when he was a tall, dark senior and I was a home schooled, shy and nerdy sophomore, taking classes at the same high school. He played baseball and trumpet, and I sang soprano and acted in the fall play. For the first two years of high school, we never noticed each other.
The first time I looked into his blue-green eyes, I fell for him. Read More…

If you love love stories, you’ll enjoy this first week on the blog, as we introduce ourselves and how we met our husbands! And if you love giveaways, be sure to enter the giveaways this week!
We’ve already got some great content up on the site, so browse our categories and archives too. And if you like what you see, will you share a link on facebook or twitter? Maybe follow the blog? 
Everything with this blog has fallen into place in such a way that it could only be God. I know he has big things planned for the future. Thank you for your love and support!